by Zohare Haider
Often I have been in situations, mostly while growing up, where I blamed everything and anything but myself for whatever happened, unless the outcome was good. This was the birth of not giving credit where it was truly due, but also not recognizing the importance of taking responsibility.
Anecdotes are a lot like old wives tales or urban myths. We can stretch it as far as a striking comparison with superstition. The parallels are quite simple – really just different ways of looking at things. Like Robin Williams did in ‘Dead Poet’s Society’, change your perspective, stand on top of the table. They help by guiding us through situations plain, simple words cannot otherwise do.
This morning I got my daily email news from a widely read Pakistani newspaper, where a headline read, “17 schoolchildren killed in accident”. The article is about how two large vehicles collided, one of them carrying the 17 kids destined for death today. Some say when your time comes, it was actually written sometime back by some unknown scribes. I haven’t prescribed to this thinking. The accident wasn’t an accident, just as their death wasn’t an accident; it all could have been avoided.
I like to think that there is more to life than just conforming to rules others set for you, whether religious, social, academic or professional. No, that does not mean I prescribe to rebellion, although I have been known to condone such acts occasionally.
Go out and take a risk. Do something different. Be a salmon. Buy a Dodge Charger, despite the myths of after-purchase market value or spare part prices.
How else will you know there’s yet another way to do it, right or almost? Math is pretty boxed in with all those formulas. Yet, every once in a while, a rebellious mathematician presents another way to crack the code. I hated math, never was any good at it.
There is always a method to the madness and it’s not accidental. The first step to recognizing this is learning to take responsibility for your individual actions. We may or may not be born good, but we do have a lifetime to correct it with all the messages shrouding our everyday. You could be daft to miss them, for which you still remain responsible, whether or not you choose to accept.
Step back, take a look at the macro before analyzing the granularity of the micro. After all, it just took one caveman to be ‘different’.